Hi there,
My name is Jack.
I’m an emotional healing and leadership coach for
high-performing men.
I help guys overcome relationship struggles, navigate divorce, and become better leaders in their relationship and at work.
My Philosophy
My work is primarily focused on emotions.
This may sound basic – what do my emotions have to do with my work and relationships?
The reality is, your emotions have everything to do with who you are in relationship to the world. Your experience of reality is a direct consequence of your emotions, and many of us are still living old emotional programs that developed in infancy.
Through my methods, you’ll learn how to repair inner wounds, process and regulate your emotions, and walk through the world with a new set of ‘emotional imprints’. This work will improve all areas of your life, starting with how you feel.
My method
Like many men, when I first started working on myself, I tried meditation, journalling, and talk therapy. These helped me become more self-aware, but eventually I hit a wall – I was still experiencing the same emotional problems over and over.
When I found somatic relational healing, everything changed for me. This was what led me to discover that working with our thoughts (as CBT and other mainstream therapies do) isn’t that effective and that working with the body, our emotions, and the unconscious is the path to real transformation.
Somatic relational work focuses on healing the wounds that happened in our relationships and stayed in our bodies. My work helps you to become more resourceful, grounded, and resilient by giving you the support, guidance, and inner intuition that wasn’t available in your past.
My Story
Growing up, I had a “normal childhood” – except for the fact that my best friend’s mom died when we were kids. My best friend and his father bullied me and exposed me to horrible and disturbing ideas, and I often felt deeply unsafe in their house. This left me with many imprints of fear and un-safety that caused me to give up my needs in order to feel safe.
Throughout high-school and college, I was a high-performer, but I also loved to party. It was an escape from my feelings of insecurity and shame. I got into harder forms of partying, including binge drinking and taking drugs, and eventually I ended up in an extremely anxious and unstable place.
After being attacked by an ex-partner, I developed OCD and PTSD, and feeling like I was losing my grip on reality.
One morning, after waking up for what felt like my hundredth night of having nightmares in a row, I realized I needed to commit my life to healing. I had hit rock bottom.
I’ve been on my healing journey for 7 years now. Everything that happened to me has become the ground that I stand on. I continue to see coaches and therapists, and my own inner work will likely never be finished.